Recently on my way back from Singapore after the Malaysia-Singapore First Aid & Home Nursing Competition, we stopped at KL Sentral for our train back to Ipoh. Then my members "belanja" me. Ask me to go through palm reading using this machine called "The Mouth of Truth". Honestly, I am not a believer. But it made my mind ponder what the list says about my self.
After a while a piece of paper pop-out.
The list mentions the following :
- You have a strong constitution and can work hard.
- You are gifted with excellent critical capacities.
- You don't allow yourself to be swayed by circumstances.
- You often feel uncomfortable with people and don't know how to cultivate friendships or lasting relationships.
- As long as you can achieve your ambitions you don't care about anyone else's feelings.
- Your childhood longings will soon be satisfied.
The 5th. line made me wonder. Are my expectations too high? Have I pressured my members? Did I put my ambitions first?
My standards are high. I do agree. It's not for my personal gain but to improve yourselves. If you fail I won't blame you, but blame myself because I have not done enough to make you better. I know you feel pressured because you don't want to disappoint me. But believe me, that I won't get angry because you fail, but I will be disappointed if you give up!
My Ambitions? Do I have one? I was asking myself, what will I gain? End of the day I think it is satisfaction. That is what I have gained. And the most important thing of them all is experience and memories which I will treasure it until the day I die.
So to my members who read my blog. This is what I got to say to you:
The only way we improve ourselves is to learn from your mistakes, quickly realize it and correct them fast. Once you get it right, don't be comfortable with your achievement but continue to strive to improve. The trouble with people today is they become too comfortable and get carried away with their success.
Soon you will be leaders. None of us are born leaders. Again you will feel pressured because you want to set a benchmark and do better then the previous leaders. It's good that you want to do better but that's not important if you ask me. Look at the problems that need urgent attention. Prioritize your projects to make sure you're working on what's truly important instead of getting caught up in minor things. Always put your priorities right. Never let personal feelings get in the way when making decisions.
It is like building a house. Your walls and foundation need to be strong. Without a strong foundation and walls, the roof will collapse and if you are in that house you might get injured badly and there might not be any fast recovery.
Be sensitive to your surrounding. You can't make everyone happy but at least try to make everyone agree and understand your ideas and plans. Issues can always be talked out. The best way to resolve a problem/issue is to bring all parties together and talk over it. Trash it all out. End of the day settle everything at that table and leave it there, don't bring it back and discuss it outside.
As there is a Chinese saying "Pour Cold Water". There are people of such around us, they tend to give all types of reasons just to make you to withdraw your ideas and determination. Ignore this type of people, either they follow the crowd or they will be left behind. Sooner or later they will join the crowd because they won't want to be left behind.
When there are leaders, there will be followers. For the followers, don't always be the follower. You can always speak up and give your opinions. What I want my members to know is, don't be afraid to voice out. Everyday I share my experience with you and at the same time I learn something new from you.
Sometimes, I share my views and experiences but it does not mean you literally accept what I got to say. I leave it to you to decide. If you use your judgment right, then you will make a wise choice but if you don't, you will have to learn your lesson through the hard way. That is part of training. and learning.
Finally, your studies and parents are the most important things. Always put them first. I know your parents always worry about your studies. If you don't do well in your studies, they will not allow your to be involved actively in St. John. Remember all the training we provide is not just to be used when there is an emergency, it can also be used in any other day to day situation.
When you want to play, you play. When you want to learn, you learn. Sometimes take a break and give yourself a pat on your back for a job well done. But don't allow success to make your forget yourself. Be humble and be yourself.
Time is short, so don't waste time.
Are my expectation too high for you ???
After a while a piece of paper pop-out.
The list mentions the following :
- You have a strong constitution and can work hard.
- You are gifted with excellent critical capacities.
- You don't allow yourself to be swayed by circumstances.
- You often feel uncomfortable with people and don't know how to cultivate friendships or lasting relationships.
- As long as you can achieve your ambitions you don't care about anyone else's feelings.
- Your childhood longings will soon be satisfied.
The 5th. line made me wonder. Are my expectations too high? Have I pressured my members? Did I put my ambitions first?
My standards are high. I do agree. It's not for my personal gain but to improve yourselves. If you fail I won't blame you, but blame myself because I have not done enough to make you better. I know you feel pressured because you don't want to disappoint me. But believe me, that I won't get angry because you fail, but I will be disappointed if you give up!
My Ambitions? Do I have one? I was asking myself, what will I gain? End of the day I think it is satisfaction. That is what I have gained. And the most important thing of them all is experience and memories which I will treasure it until the day I die.
So to my members who read my blog. This is what I got to say to you:
The only way we improve ourselves is to learn from your mistakes, quickly realize it and correct them fast. Once you get it right, don't be comfortable with your achievement but continue to strive to improve. The trouble with people today is they become too comfortable and get carried away with their success.
Soon you will be leaders. None of us are born leaders. Again you will feel pressured because you want to set a benchmark and do better then the previous leaders. It's good that you want to do better but that's not important if you ask me. Look at the problems that need urgent attention. Prioritize your projects to make sure you're working on what's truly important instead of getting caught up in minor things. Always put your priorities right. Never let personal feelings get in the way when making decisions.
It is like building a house. Your walls and foundation need to be strong. Without a strong foundation and walls, the roof will collapse and if you are in that house you might get injured badly and there might not be any fast recovery.
Be sensitive to your surrounding. You can't make everyone happy but at least try to make everyone agree and understand your ideas and plans. Issues can always be talked out. The best way to resolve a problem/issue is to bring all parties together and talk over it. Trash it all out. End of the day settle everything at that table and leave it there, don't bring it back and discuss it outside.
As there is a Chinese saying "Pour Cold Water". There are people of such around us, they tend to give all types of reasons just to make you to withdraw your ideas and determination. Ignore this type of people, either they follow the crowd or they will be left behind. Sooner or later they will join the crowd because they won't want to be left behind.
When there are leaders, there will be followers. For the followers, don't always be the follower. You can always speak up and give your opinions. What I want my members to know is, don't be afraid to voice out. Everyday I share my experience with you and at the same time I learn something new from you.
Sometimes, I share my views and experiences but it does not mean you literally accept what I got to say. I leave it to you to decide. If you use your judgment right, then you will make a wise choice but if you don't, you will have to learn your lesson through the hard way. That is part of training. and learning.
Finally, your studies and parents are the most important things. Always put them first. I know your parents always worry about your studies. If you don't do well in your studies, they will not allow your to be involved actively in St. John. Remember all the training we provide is not just to be used when there is an emergency, it can also be used in any other day to day situation.
When you want to play, you play. When you want to learn, you learn. Sometimes take a break and give yourself a pat on your back for a job well done. But don't allow success to make your forget yourself. Be humble and be yourself.
Time is short, so don't waste time.
Are my expectation too high for you ???
Posts
